Change is good, Donkey!

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Well internet family, it’s been a hot minute since we have posted anything on here, and 2019 has been quite the year for all of us! While I can’t tell the story for everyone, I can say (one of my favorite quotes)

“Change is good, Donkey!”

And changes there have been! The biggest one being that I created the first MG little person!  He (yes, he, but boys can ride horses too!) came out on September 2nd and we are already shopping for a mini 🙂 

This also came with its fair share of changes and adjustments and, as my dearest H-Love advised, I “leaned into it.” I began this year with two horses in full swing and I had to make some decisions about how they were going to spend their summer.  Luckily, I was able to secure an amazing lease for Cowboy and I continued riding Aloha well into my sixth month, and even managed to horse show until I handed him over to our trusty trainer for full training. Unfortunately my lack riding clothes that fit properly led to a downfall in my #ROOTD posts. Fear not though, once I have the A’ok to get back in the saddle and can get my pants on, posting will be back in full swing!  

As fun as it had been to be just a horse owner and see my horses going so well with their respective riders and cheer my girls on from the sidelines, I am itching to get back at it and hopefully getting back into shape won’t hurt as much as I think it will – even with H’s new Butet practice saddle 😉 my legs are crying already…

There are so many tropes about change, and I think it would be hard to not have mixed feelings about it when it’s happening. Riki (and Shrek!) are right – change is good; but it’s also really hard.

One of the big changes in the past year is our geography. Riki & I moved to a new barn, which leaves our trio feeling a bit far apart at times. This may have contributed to our diminishing social presence, which I think we can all agree is a shame. 

Here’s the thing girls (and guys), the advice I gave to Riki is something I really stand by. Sometimes you feel like the world is happening around you, and you lose control of your grip on your own life. I say, don’t be a passenger – lean into it. Amazing things can happen when you embrace change. If you’re skeptical, I’d recommend Shonda Rhimes’ book “Year of Yes” (which is available on Audible if you, like many of us, have very little spare time to read). 

Changes of any kind can bring up all sorts of emotions and feelings, which would lead many of us to avoid it. In my case, I was faced with an issue where I no longer felt a part of a community that I had grown up with and I felt I had no option but to make a change to my circumstances. With that came a change, both in barn and trainer. This was a big decision, and one I did not take lightly because there was a lot to let go of, and a huge concern over loss of so many things and people I love dearly. While casualties can often come as a consequence, I felt it was in my best interest to lean into these feelings and rip the band aid. I will say: it has been hard, it is still hard… but one more thing: I am happy! 

I have more big changes coming down the pipe for me in the next year (step one: get married in two months!), and I can’t wait to embrace all of it, with all the fear, tension, and anxiety it will no doubt bring. I know that every opportunity I can grab will ultimately make me stronger, happier, better. 

Change is good. But that doesn’t mean it’s not hard, and sometimes maybe a little painful. But hey, no pain, no gain, right? Losing Riki and H to another barn was hard. As mentioned, it means our trio doesn’t see each other as much as we would like. Life is busy, we all have full plates, but I look forward to finding a balance that includes time for friends. And fun. And all things Mane Girls. 

For me, the most significant change this year was separating from my husband. Before you feel sorry for me or make soft cooing noises, know this was a change for the best for everyone. But it’s been hard and full of challenges. I am still trying to find my way and figure out what my “new normal” is. I am lucky enough to have been able to stay at the farm and keep my beloved suite. But it’s still a loss, and I am working my way through it. As H said, lean into it. Life is what you make of it, and I want to start making the most.

If I am honest, I have no idea what the future holds. And that’s ok. I don’t, and you don’t, have to figure it all out at once. Sometimes you just have to take it one day at a time. Heck, even one hour at a time. And remind yourself it’s ok not to be ok. As long as you are taking steps, even baby steps, to get to a better place, you are going in the right direction. Surround yourself with good people, puppies, and ponies, and you really can’t go wrong. And embrace the change; it’s truly the only constant in life. 
~ Apes

Change is good. Expect more from us in the coming months, and we so appreciate your support while we readjust, reinvent, and react to all these changes. 

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